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I grieved alone in silence and healed through connection and community
Pregnancy loss is a sensitive matter. Everyone’s grief is as unique as their fingerprints.
This blog shares how community and connection helped me heal from the isolated grief of miscarriage and invites you to seek out your own space for connection.
It’s not her, it’s me - the deafening silence of male infertility
This blog discusses the silence surrounding male infertility and its impact on the wellbeing of men or on the couple’s relationship.
I’ll always be a doughnut, but I have choices in how I decorate it
How now being able to say, “I will always be a doughnut”, is no longer focusing on the painful hole of loss, but about what surrounds it.
I can buy myself flowers – triumphing over heartbreak
Although this song is not related to living childless not by choice, these lyrics speak about selfcare, self-talk, independent celebration, and nurturing oneself to create a life of contentment that triumphs over heartbreak.
Saying goodbye before you get to say hello
Image shows two lotus flowers with a remembrance candle
Infertility Awareness – It IS bigger on the inside
Image shows photo of author in front of a TARDIS
Voiceless: The agonizing silence around male infertility seen through the Little Mermaid’s eyes
Image shows a mosaic of a mermaid holding a diamond shaped lens
Neurodiversity and infertility grief
Image shows silhoutte of two people walking slightly apart from each other. The background is a golden yellow light
Two is still a family
Image shows one hand handing a heart to another hand open to receiving
Navigating Valentine’s Day when you are battling infertility
Image shows 3 couples. Left - a couple with a pregnancy test visibly upset. Middle - couple walking on the beach. Right - an elderly couple who don’t appear happy.
Lessons from Rudolph at Christmas time
Image shows an empty crib with a star overhead in the background and a reindeer with a red nose depicting Rudolph in the foreground.
The lonely aloneness of IVF
The IVF Roller Coaster is a crowded, yet lonely place. At times, one can feel extremely alone and even abandoned. Over time, I found that working through my grief, relearning a new normal, and looking for joy again has been liberating. I no longer feel lonely or alone. I have found a way to thrive in my childless not by choice life.
image depicts an abandoned room with a single empty chair.
Finding balance in the fog of IVF
Sometimes the fog of the IVF roller coaster can persist even after you have disembarked the #ivfrollercoaster.
Working with a coach / therapist may help identify reasons for this fog and develop strategies to move forward.
